Really, what I want
is to be loved. I want to be pursued and
chased and valued. I want to get that
poprocks-in-your-stomach kind of feeling.
I want to be wanted. (Thanks,
Hunter Hayes.) I want someone to want to
know what makes me tick.
So here's the plan.
I'm just sort of
working it out, so I'm open to suggestions.
I've got the grown up job, so that's good. It might be even better that it's working
with kids in a change the world/impact the next generation way. I think that's extra points. I'm at church almost every week. I just got promoted to foyer hostess on the
hospitality committee. Last week at our
college/career gathering, I met 12 new people.
Surely helping lead that small group is helping make my case. I mean, what else could God want? I put my dishes in the dishwasher. I'm not out kicking children or committing
fraud. Maybe it's enough to be loved.
Of course, that's
all rubbish.
Never ever ever ever
will you ever catch God saying "I will love you if
_____________". And yet… somehow… I
get the idea that He will love me if. If
I kick the habit. If I volunteer. If I
go to church. If I don't drink, smoke,
cuss, or chew. If I don't - you finish
the sentence. I treat love as if it's a
paycheck. If I do this for You, God,
then You will owe me love. I treat love
as if it's a prenuptial agreement. You
will love me unless I _______, and then it's back to square one and I'm left
with nothing. But that's my idea of
love. I try to make love fair.
God's love is never
fair.
(Right
after the golden calf fiasco) Behold, to the
LORD you God belong heaven and the heaven of heavens, the earth with all that
is in it. Yet the LORD set
His heart in love on your fathers and chose their offspring after them, you
above all peoples, as you are this day. Deuteronomy 10:14-15 (emphasis mine)
But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious,
slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness. Psalm 86:15
For God so loved the world, that He gave His only
Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son in to the world
to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him.
John 3:16-17
But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great
love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us
alive together with Christ… so that in the coming ages He might show the
immeasurable riches of His grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.
Ephesians 2:4-7
God's love is not a
paycheck. It is not a transaction. It would not add up, reconcile in a checkbook
register, or be approved if it were a bank loan. I cannot out run it, out smart it, or out sin it.
I got it when I didn't deserve it, so what in the big wide world makes
me think I need to earn it now?
The
light dawns and the lie becomes clear.
Love is a gift, and it has always been.
Love is the richest, fullest, brightest gift, and God's is unending.
Suddenly that rush
of realization about God's love spills over into how I understand human
love. So we must be careful. The strychnine in the well poisons not only the well, but the lemonade in the pitcher and the flowers in the vase and even the cherry jello. A crooked view of God's love - a view that love is earned or deserved or - perish the thought - transacted - bleeds into all our other loves.
Not "maybe if
I'm funny and don't ask too much of them and send them cards on their birthdays
then my friends will love me".
Quite the other way around.
Because they love me I will be funnier and ask things of them and send
them cards in the mail.
Not "maybe if I
take out the trash and keep my room clean and am the biggest fan then my family
will love me". That's quite an
upside down approach. Their love makes me
the biggest trash emptier/room cleaner/ fan.
Not "maybe if I
look pretty and don't talk too much or just enough and have the sweetest
attitude then Mr. Wonderful will love me".
Rubbish. The love of Mr.
Wonderful itself will make me pretty and will bid me talk or not and will
encourage an attitude of sweetness.
That's the power of love. It transforms things. Love turns scars into stories of grace. It makes peace out of conflict and action out of apathy. It brings light to darkness and hope to despair.
Love is a costly
gift, but the greatest one.
Little Miss Sunshine
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