I'm all sexed
out.
I'm tired of a
culture that is fiercely enslaved to sex.
It is wearying not to be able to buy a toothbrush without someone trying
to convince me that somehow I'll be transformed into a 5'7" blonde with
blindingly white teeth if I use their toothbrush. Let's not even talk about shampoo
commercials. Eck. Everywhere I look, sex. Pinterest is convinced that if I do this butt
workout, I'll be sexier. If I slather my hair with jojoba oil, cow
manure and chopped licorice, I'll be sexier. Facebook thinks I need to get on SingleMingle
or Match.com or I'mSingleandIKnowIt to meet sexy single guys. Let's not sell
them bag of Doritos because they taste good, let's sell them a bag of Doritos
because they're sexy. I'm not sure I
could buy a paperclip without being harangued about its sleek, sexy design. Oh, and wherever sexy went, JT is bringing it back.
There are whole
industries built on sex, some of them deemed more pardonable than others. People think it's more OK to watch people
having sex on the internet than to go hire a child prostitute. "Porn is just maybe a weakness or
something to do on the weekends."
"Child prostitution is a whole other ball game." "That doesn't happen here. That's stuff they make movies about in other
countries where Liam Neeson goes and kills bad guys." There's a whole slave industry sustained by a
culture who is enslaved to sex. How are we so blind that WE ENSLAVE PEOPLE TO
FEED OUR ADDICTION TO SEX?
Here's the
kicker. Sex is not the problem. Friends, who created sex in the first
place? Nope, Adam and Eve did not invent
sex. Get ready for this one…
God did.
Now, if there's one
thing I know about God, it's that He loves community. He is the Trinity, which is like community on
steroids. He sent Jesus to die so that we could be restored to community
with Him. He designed the community of
the Church to love and help each other and the people around them. He designed marriage as an expression of
community, and as a stable place for kids to grow up in. God created sex as an expression of vulnerability and intimacy in marriage.
It's a pity I don't
have a whiteboard right now, because I would draw you this picture. Use your imagination. Big circle with the word COMMUNITY inside it. This is where God wants all people to
live. No one was meant to be alone, even
nomads travel in bunches. He's given us
all kind of things to do in this circle - eat food, work, volunteer, hang out,
play sports, knit scarves, whatever you're into. Inside the COMMUNITY circle, I'd draw another
circle and write MARRIAGE in it. God
designed marriage. It's a good
thing. It's a thing that most people
should pursue. Marriage is great for
communities. It stabilizes people. It makes better kids. Within that marriage circle, I'd write a list
of things that married people should be doing, stuff like serving each other,
working hard, blessing the people around them, spending time with wise people,
modeling the kind of love that Christ has for the Church, having sex, cleaning
house, having fun, etc. etc. Did you
notice how much of the pie sex got?
Yeah, it got a decent sized slice in the marriage pie, which is a decent
slice of the community pie.
We have taken a good
thing that God made for married people and made it this grandiose
experience/industry/image/culture. And it's wrecking us.
But that's how idols work.
They hurt people. They cause
pain. They trick you into thinking
they're not so bad, or even a great idea.
Sex is good, so let's just have it all the time and watch it and think
about it all the time. It's connected to love, and love is good, so it's
fine. NO! False.
Big lie. Any time you give
something a bigger slice of the pie than it was meant to have, things go awry.
Sure, it might be weird or foreign to hear that sex was meant for married people. That's the way God wrote things. Is that always the easiest way to live? No. I get that. If this whole concept is new to you, that's OK. Sometimes Jesus says things that take a while to think through. He's not very politically correct, either. Sometimes He straight up tells you that what you're doing is wrong, and there's a better way to live. The funny thing is, He's always right.
Now, I realize that
reclaiming culture takes a long time, a lot of people doing smart cultural
things, and a whole lot of Gospel. But
can we start today, in our own lives, gathering up our own armfuls of things
we've given too much pie and take them out with the garbage? Maybe that means you don't watch certain
movies. Maybe that means you start
getting involved with people like the International Justice Mission, who are
making a dent in the modern day slave trade.
Maybe you talk to your kids about how sex is a good thing, but only when
you keep it where it belongs. Maybe you
toss those porn movies you've been hanging onto. Whatever your maybe is, do it. Take your one step to reclaim culture.
Much love,
Little Miss Sunshine
I agree fully, but I think there is one point you made that we all make a bit too casually. You pointed out that we are a culture addicted to sex. True enough, but that also means that any impact we have in our own lives and the culture as a whole has to come with an intentional mindset of what freedom and addiction look like. Perhaps that one step you mention is not something that we are disinclined to make, perhaps it is one that we are not always free to make. In that case, I believe we have to dig a bit deeper and see the empowering nature of the freedom of Christ, and not only use that power in our own lives, but think about what it really means to introduce freedom into the lives of others, (IJM is the obvious example, in that they introduce physical freedom to those enslaved by the sex culture, but emotional, mental, and spiritual freedom must be pursued by us on the other end of the sexual culture)
ReplyDeleteIn short, at the end, I could not agree more with you, and with your call. But I strongly feel that those seeking to answer your call in a powerful way must chase deeper truths about changing our culture and ourselves. Too often a powerful call like yours gets turned into a Nike slogan in my soul, and while action is always wonderful, Christ is needed in the deeper places in our lives and communities, not just action.
Thanks, Matt! It seems like an echo in my life right now, these conversations about our hearts being idol factories, quick to worship anything other than what they ought, and about our true fault being a worship disorder. Sin, in whatever form it comes, is a heart issue, and simply tossing DVDs or donating money will not fix heart issues, though it may be an outworking of the Holy Spirit fixing heart issues. :)
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